How Dating with Confidence Makes all the Difference

admin | June 1, 2011 in General,Shy Tips | Comments (0)

Confidence can be incredibly sexy. Without confidence, your date may not go as well. Men and women both want a partner who is sure of themselves. Here are a few ways to boost your confidence level without crossing the line.
Confidence vs. Arrogance
Yes, confidence is a must for the dating world. However, if you don’t monitor yourself you may easily slip in to the world of arrogance. Sometimes the line can be very fine as well. Being self assured is one thing. Bragging is another. Don’t order for your date, don’t bring up all the money you have in your bank account, and don’t make assumptions. Telling your date that you love your job and explaining it is acceptable. It’s also important not to hog the spotlight. Give your date an opportunity to talk about them as well.
Don’t Fidget
You can say all the right things but still come across as being a jellyfish if you are squirmy or fidgeting. Watch your mannerisms. Avoid playing with your hair, your glasses, your watch, or anything else in front of you. If you start to feel nervous, focus on something that doesn’t require you to play with it.
For women there is going to be a line between confidence and sleazy when it comes to their clothing. You can display confidence with a sexy outfit; however, if you take it too far you just look cheap and slutty. You can show a little cleavage, but remember to leave something to the imagination. Don’t wear skirts that are very short, or heels that look like they belong in the strip club.

Safe Dating for Men and Women

admin | May 6, 2011 in Date Tips,General | Comments (0)

Dating is supposed to be fun. Unfortunately if we don’t take a few steps before hand we could be putting ourselves at risk. Here are some tips to help men and women stay safe.
Arranging the meet
Many will use the internet to arrange meets, first of all make sure that the site has a good reputation and active community, it pays to get to know a few others in the same community before arranging anything, word gets around and when you get to know a few people they will be able to provide good feedback on others, swinging communities are very tight knit and also likely to have groups within your area, for example if you lived in Tweed Heads, Australia you would have all of these Tweed Heads Swingers to interact with.
Have a Plan
You need to have a plan before you start to head out the door for your first date. Know where you are going and with who, and tell a friend. Also be sure that you meet the date so you have your own transportation. Just as a child shouldn’t get in a car with a stranger, neither should an adult. Keep your phone charged and have a preset emergency call planned.
Don’t Brag
One of the traps that men fall in to all the time is they start to brag about their great job, drive their great car, and take a woman to a very expensive restaurant or event for the first date. While many women will be impressed by this, others may see it as an opportunity. You don’t want to become victim to someone who will rob you or steal your identity. It’s not talked about as much, but it’s not an uncommon scam. Avoid talking about what’s in your bank account before the date. Don’t allow them to meet at your place, and keep everything low key.
Trust You’re Gut
You hear stories time and time again about people who end up in bad situations and they will say later that they knew something was off. Your natural intuition is a powerful tool. Listen to it! If you meet someone and something feels off, just end the date and go to a friends place instead. It’s better to fake a stomach ache or illness than to ignore your gut and end up in a dangerous situation.

How Do Dating Coaches Work

admin | April 17, 2011 in General | Comments (0)

Dating coaches are great for people who may not have the best social skills. Even those who are good in social settings can benefit from a dating coach. If you’re wondering how these coaches operate, here’s a quick overview.
Behavior Modeling
One of the most successful ways a dating coach can help is through behavior modeling. With this you will watch others on dates, typically recorded on DVD, and with the coach you will find the things that work and what doesn’t work. You then role play some of the things you’ve seen on the DVD until you understand the behaviors that you need to eliminate and what you should add. After the mock dates you are generally able to successfully go on a real date incorporating some of these methods.
Many dating coaches will offer seminars as a more affordable way to increase your dating skills. In the seminar you may not get one on one coaching, but they will still go over good techniques, common mistakes, and may include some role playing. Be aware however that a lot of these seminars are nothing more than advertising plots designed to get you to purchase books or DVDs.
Average Costs
A professional dating coach will usually have a background in psychology or social work. The sessions will average around the same amount a therapy session would be. You can expect to pay anywhere from $75 to $200 per session, but some dating coaches will charge far more. Check out the coach before you hand over your cash and agree to any session.

Romantic Dating Tips

admin | March 30, 2011 in Date Tips,General | Comments (0)

Many people try too hard at romance and end up coming across as cheesy and needy. Romance isn’t as hard as people make it out to be. Here are some simple tips to plan a romantic date without looking like you tried too hard.
Avoid the Cliché
Yes, some people would enjoy a heart shaped bed and champagne, but overall this sends a message that you think your date is easy. Bringing chocolates and flowers is sweet, but it’s also very generic. Bottom lines, if you think Valentines Day at a discount store, then avoid it.
Tailor Made
The most romantic dates are the ones you put a lot of thought in to. If you know your date has a favorite band, or a classic movie they love, remember this. Getting tickets to a small concert can be just as romantic as heart shaped chocolates. Going to a midnight movie showing of their favorite Bogart film will also score you more points than something generic. Think about your dates favorite things and incorporate them in to the date itself. This will be far more romantic.
Don’t Overdo It
Showing up at your dates door with 5 dozen red roses will likely just creep your date out. A single rose or a dozen of their favorite flower is going to go over better. If you just started dating you don’t want to rush in to romance either. You may think you’re being sweet while your date may get scared that you are moving too fast.

Shy Guy Needs Dating Help – Just Ask the Professionals

admin | February 1, 2011 in Shy Tips | Comments (0)

Being shy and dating can be terribly difficult. If you are shy you may not know what to say, and can sometimes come across as aloof and snobbish without meaning to. This can lead to bad dates and a lower chance of scoring a second date. There are some things you can do to help you get over this and put your best foot forward.
Dating Coaches
A dating coach is a therapist who specializes in social behavior. With a coach you can learn techniques that will allow you to open up and be less shy. Often times dating coaches will include mock dating as part of the therapy. This allows you to be in a real life dating situation, and the coach will help you with appropriate behavior. It may take numerous sessions, but the skills you learn can be used in all social aspects of your life.
Workshops and Seminars
You may not have the money to sink in to private coaching which can run into several hundred dollars per session, so you may want to look into weekend workshops or seminars. These won’t be as intensive as one on one coaching, but will help you break some of the barriers you have when it comes to dating. Instead of mock dating you may be asked to role play with other participants. You may also watch video of dates so you can get a better idea of what works and what doesn’t. Many workshops and seminars will include workbooks that you can go back through before a real date to refresh your memory.  Being shy doesn’t have to mean you won’t have a dating life. You just may need some guidance to help you overcome your shyness.

You should also consider joining a swinging site, you can put an advert up and correspond with interested people to improve your communication skills, when your confidence increase you can take the next step and meet up with them.

How to Ask Someone Out and Get the Timing Right

admin | January 2, 2011 in Date Tips,General | Comments (0)

You can have the perfect way to ask someone out, but if the timing is wrong you will get a ‘no’. The timing is just as important as actually having the nerve to ask someone out. Here are a few tips to ensure the timing is perfect.
Avoid Crisis or Emotional Situations
It goes without saying that asking someone out at a funeral is a bad idea. However, there are many other situations where emotions may run high that you haven’t thought about. Weddings sound like they may be a good time to ask someone out, but while you may think they are romantic, for those who have been engaged, are divorced, or aren’t with anyone they can be depressing events. Other times when emotions may run high may be children’s birthday parties, baptisms, and some church related services.
Avoid Distractions
If you want to ask a girl out who is surrounded by friends, you are basically asking for all of their approval. Asking someone out in a crowded night club will be hard because there are too many distractions. There are ways around this. If you want to ask out a woman who is with a group of friends, wait for her to get up to get a drink or head for the dance floor. This way you can get her alone and talk to her. Make it quick though, once the friends see her chatting with a guy they will come over to size you up. The same applies at a night club. Tell the person you’d like to talk, and head to a quiet area so you aren’t shouting over the music.